I used to be a cosmopolitan hipster, who traveled the world, ate exciting food, played music, cared about the plights of others, was moved by art…

In the last few years I’ve done a complete 180. Got married, had kids, did the whole reasonable adult thing, and I love it. I’ve never been so happy.

I haven’t written a song in years, I eat grilled chicken 5 times a week, what’s a museum?, go to a show, why??, the only books I read are about business or cheesy thrillers. I’ve become a suburban dad who doesn’t give a shit about culture.

The other day my wife had to tell me I couldn’t wear flip flops to dinner. My younger self rolled over in his grave.

The crazy thing? I’m completely satisfied, happy, and content in every way. I am thoroughly aware of who I am. I have no desires I can’t attain. I don’t give a shit about the environment, social issues, art; I only care about making money to provide for my family & spending time with them & the few close friends I’ve retained.

I do great at both those things and sleep really well at night.

I was a Bernie Sanders fan. I felt like his radical social, economic, and social Justice politics was on point and what we needed.

I remember the democratic primaries happening in late 2019 and early 2020. I would listen to the recaps on NPR. It seemed like Bernie was crushing it in the primaries for the first few states.

By early 2020 I believe he was the clear front runner by a mile, it seemed like he was actually going to get the nomination. He had so much momentum and he was so far in the lead.

And then the Super Tuesday happened 3/3/2020. The week leading up to the big day I couldn’t believe it as Amy Klobuchar, Beto O’ Rourke, and Pete Buttigieg all dropped out of the race within days of each other, and right after suddenly gave their endorsements to Biden

These were candidates who just a week or two before Super Tuesday were giving passionate, determined speeches about their campaign. These weren’t speeches from people who were about to drop out, or who were considering dropping out just a week or two before Super Tuesday. These were people who just two weeks before were criticizing Biden and calling him unfit to be president during debates

I realized then that it was a coordinated move by the Democratic Party to end Bernie. They were all collaborating, colluding, scheming. The Democratic Party went this far to ensure Bernie wouldn’t get the nomination. The American people had spoken up until that point, but Bernie wasn’t in line with the establishment and the Democratic Party needed him gone.

They ensured Biden got the nomination and had everyone drop out so the vote wasn’t split

Of course Super Tuesday happened and Bernie got wrecked. Of course Kamala Harris also endorsed Biden days after.

And then COVID happened and the rallies/ campaign trails ended overnight. The primaries were essentially over at that point and Biden’s nomination was a done deal.

I watched in horror months later after Biden won where a lot of the people that endorsed him got kickbacks and were appointed to high government positions. Kamala got picked for Vice President

To this day, I wonder if Bernie would have won if the Democratic Party hadn’t interfered. I know what the DNC did was probably not illegal, but it should be illegal. The American people had spoken but the DNC couldn’t accept it. That was not a fair race or a fair election

It felt like democracy died that day in March 2020

I’ve seen a lot of people lately make disliking children their whole personality, especially women. I get that there is a historical, societal expectation to have children that can be grating, and I get the urge to rebel against that, but in most cases it just comes off as “I’m not like other girls” syndrome for middle aged millennials.

They assume that they’re the only people that feel uncomfortable around kids. Everyone does, but they also understand that this is part of the human reality. Young children simply haven’t developed enough yet for them to be enjoyable to be around, but we still tolerate them so they can learn and grow and eventually get there.

I’m not saying that you have to become a kindergarten teacher or anything, but at least have common decency.

I’ve seen so many out of pocket remarks on this website. Calling babies crotch goblins, for example, is just low and crude and I don’t know how that ever became acceptable.

I just read an AITAH post where someone was asking if they were the asshole for refusing to hold their sister’s newborn that just got home from the hospital. Somehow the verdict was in their favor. Just let your sister plop the baby in your arms for a second and force a smile so someone can snap a picture. Jfc it’s not that hard. Just show support for your sister.

Edit:

To clarify, I think it’s fine to-

1. Not want children yourself

2. Want to limit time around them for social battery reasons, germs reasons, trauma reasons or whatever reasons

3. Want there to be adult only spaces and events. Children definitely aren’t appropriate everywhere and all the time.

What this boils down to is if you’re gonna not like children, please go about it in a normal, well adjusted way. Kids are a fact of life and they’re still people.

I’m surprised people don’t have more of an issue with the sexism in my first sentence, we’ve just glossed over that.

If I had a dollar for every time I heard this response I’d be rich enough to not live with my mom and therefore get a girlfriend.

So tired of this.

I’m 30. I’m not allowed to date women 18-24.

That leaves 25+ meaning the ones ready to settle down and start a family usually.

I can’t support myself so how am I good serious relationship material? I’m not!

I never claim women need rich men. But who the hell wants a guy who isn’t even independent at 30?!

I don’t blame women. I don’t call them bad names. I just simply know I can’t offer them stability and stability is important.

I see way too many posts whining about overweight and obese people on here. We get it you hate them. It’s not your body, if you find them repulsive and it bothers you so deeply get therapy. I grew up with a secret hatred for them because I had bulimia since a very young age. Even then as a small child with a mental disorder I knew how to not body shame and how to keep my thoughts to myself. You don’t “care about their health” you don’t care they “promote” it you just don’t like yourself and are pushing the self hatred onto others.

Having proper access to healthcare for all, taxing capital to improve equality, taking money out of politics, improving worker rights etc. Are common sense, universal aspirations. But in the US, they can be shut down or stymied because of their association with really annoying left-wing 'activists'. These are people, who are self righteous, preachy and generally irritating. They use phrases like:

- Safe Space
- Triggered
- Radical Accountability
- Unconscious Bias
- Cultural Appropriation
- Micro Aggression
- LatinX
- Sensitivity Reading
- DEI
- etc etc

If the people who use this kind of jargon would just go away, then left of centre policies would become more palatable to more people. The problem is the minority who speaks like this have an outsized influence on the media (possibly because young journalists bring it form their colleges), and use this influence to annoy the shit out of lots of people. They galvanize resistance to the left and will help Trump get re-elected.

Of course there are lunatics on the right who are divisive, but this group - the group who talks in this pseudo-scientific, undergraduate way - are divisive from the left and utterly counter productive to the left or centrist agendas.

Every time I hear about “swifties” in the news its always because they are being bat-shit crazy. Recently its this whole thing with the football player. Like there are whole articles analyzing the dude’s facial expressions to try and connect it to Taylor Swift. Why? I get being interested in celebrities, but this is just too much. Its not just this event. Every few weeks there is a huge news story involving Taylor Swift and most of the stories and drama are just made up by her delusional fanbase. I don’t think I have ever seen another fanbase have a parasocial relationship problem as big as the “swifties”.

There I said it! Every day in the city I see really obese people wearing wildly unsuitable clothes for their body types (and no not just when it’s hot but year round).

You’ve got extra fat young women dressing like they think they’re Instagram models. I guess what started out as a good thing to not make people under eat and get anorexic has lead these obesos to actually believe that they truly look good in a tank top with their guts hanging out and wearing gym shorts that highlight thighs and an ass that look like big blobs of Swiss cheese.

Put on a mumu!

Psychology doesn't count. I'm tired of my taxes going to useless degrees. I'm tired of seeing the 800th Starbucks barista saying she's going in for criminal psychology. Like no Becky, you arent. You're going to drop out or switch majors like the rest of the girls. If your degree isn't financially viable, have mommy and daddy pay for it please.

Beauty standards are changing thanks to the Kim Kardashians of the world. It seems like more people think that large lips and large butts are the ideal. I disagree. Normal sized lips for your face is attractive and proportional butt sizes are ideal. I am not a fan of big butts in general and I think it looks gross and unhealthy. It looks gross on men and on women. People should strive for normal features which they were born with. The large lip and butt trend is disgusting to me and looks abhorrent.

"Since material goods are produced by the mind and effort of individual men/women and are needed to sustain their lives. If the producer does not own the result of his effort he does not own his life. To deny property rights means to turn men into property owned by the state, whoever claims the right to redistribute the wealth produced by others is claiming the right to treat human beings as chattel.

When you consider the global devastation perpetrated by socialism, the sea of blood and the millions of victims remember that they sacrificed, not for the good of mankind, nor for any noble ideal, but for the festering vanity of some scared brute or some pretentious mediocrity who craves a mantle of unearned greatness, and that the monument of socialism is a pyramid of public factories, public theaters and public parks, erected on a foundation of human corpses with the figure of the ruler posturing on top, beating his chest and screaming his plea for prestige to the starless void above him."

-Ayn Rand

Ayn Rand was right.

Your one fundamental human right is the right to live your own life. That comes with the responsibility of using your mind and effort to sustain your own life. You do not have a right to any goods or services produced by others, only that which you trade for value under voluntary consent. If you are dense enough to demand that you be provided services as a right consider the following questions:

Who pays for the service?

Who guarantees that the service is available?

What incentive is there for a man or woman to perform a service behind the threat of a gun?

Our current iteration of capitalism is trash not because of the businesses and corporations operating within it, but because governments insist of meddling under false pretenses and altruistic social services. When you drive up the cost to produce, the consumer suffers the most. (Carbon Taxation, stagnant innovation due to crushing regulation)

Maybe we should consume less? By what standard other than voluntary consent? Exercise your personal choice.

What will be done with the poor and less fortunate? "If you want to help them, you will not be stopped."

I am sick to fucking death of seeing these videos of these entitled, spoiled, bitter old bags passing as humans treating people that work retail or as servers or cooks in the restaurant industry like trash. Bunch of petulant children. Like, it's taken all the energy I have to not slap the taste out of their mouths. These folks are working their asses off and trying to make your life better in some small way (serving food you didn't have to cook, helping you choose a material good that you may want/need, etc). Stop acting like them doing their job gives you the right to treat them like garbage.

This is not something I agree with.

it's just an observation,

Based soley on conversations and stories I have heard from other employers who I will not name drop so you can dox them.

Basically it boils down to a lot of employers say they prefer not to hire women because they recognize the reality of the heavy litigation consequences that can arise with a low burden of proof.

Books like: "How to Destroy a Man Now" that are sold on Amazon further advance this paranoia because they serve as a step by step tutorial for women who are interested on learning how to falsify a harassment claims in the work place.

Everyone knows legitimate harassment can happen in the work place and its awful. The perpetrators who do this need to be reported and delt with harshly. Women should be able to enter any workspace without the fear of being harrased.

The MeToo movement helped in a lot of ways, especially for women who felt they had no voice.

But.. We cannot deny that there are some women out there with insidious intentions who have capitalized on this movement. Afterall women are just as capable as men when it comes to being devious opportunists.

Otherwise there wouldn't be a market for books like "How to Destroy a Man Now".

Some of the stories I've heard in conversations:

An employer over heard one female employee laughing to another about how easy it would be to claim harassment on a boss they didn't like. He Immediately contacted his corporate attorney who said there's nothing he can do except document it.

An employer had an administrative assistant who was observed by another employee doing nothing despite having a stack of reports on her desk. When the boss questioned her she said the computer wasn't working. Upon closer inspection he could see the monitor cable was cut. When he asked what happened she simply said "I don't know, I just cut the zip tie so i could move the monitor closer" After a long back and forth she refused to acknowledge any wrong doing and threatened to sue for harassment and profiling. It took him weeks to build up enough write ups to fire her.

And this is where I'll end it because I can't tell the other stories as they are to specific for the industry and the company.

CONCLUSION:

I don't know how to fix this problem!

Harassment claims should be heard and taken seriously. But human nature can also lead to devious people taking advantage of any well intentioned system.

Let me know your thoughts in the comments.

The average HS student (male?) was expected to be able to do at least 16 push-ups and in some cases were expected to be able to do 12 handstand push-ups. They were also expected to be able to run a 7 and a half minute mile.

I’ve read that today, something like 80% of American youths are unfit for military services. They can’t even so 5 push-ups, let alone 16. And I suspect they likely can’t even run a mile.

This is specific to La Sierra HS.

There is a divide in this world between naked and pants down, shirt on poopers. I'm a naked pooper.

Every time I have to go #2 I MUST be naked. It doesn't matter where I am. I could be at a friends house, a party, or a truck stop bathroom stall. It doesn't matter, gotta be naked.

I do however try to avoid going poop in public due to this reason, so that's a +1 for the pants down poopers.

I just feel too constricted if my pants and shirt aren't off when I go. I have to be in my primal form to shit, and I highly recommend pants down shirt on shitters to give this variation a try as it's incredibly freeing.

Women who get pissed off at guys who "not all men" in response are trying to deflect them being misandrist as the man being wrong (which of course is in itself Misandrist and gaslighting). Neither of these things are OK and both should be called out no matter which "side" is saying it.

A body is a body, the only Time someone makes it a big deal is when there's a social stigma around being naked, it's like how women in some countries have to cover up literally every part of their body because of the social stigma in them areas is that even the most 'normal' body part is classed as sexual. If we were taught nudity isn't a thing to be ashamed of alot of the problems we have, wouldn't be a thing, like even if a women doesn't wear a bra or god FORBID if she shows her breasts it's classed as wrong lmao. There's plenty of countries where nudity is normal and I wouldn't be surprised if the sexual harassment rates were alot lower in them countries....

Today's culture is so obsessed with emotions... they're more important than anything, especially logic or other people. It's 'healthy' to make sure you have a safe place to tell everyone your feelings all the time, and they better walk on eggshells and completely rearrange themselves to suit your emotions, or else they're toxic. On the other hand, It's 'unhealthy' to suppress your emotions to any degree. "If you bottle it all up one day you're gonna explode." This is WILD to me.

Ive been there for sure, I was a teenage girl at one point in my life and in my experience, the more I 'vented' my emotions to people, it didn't make me feel better, it made my negative feelings even stronger and more consuming. The more I stewed in my emotions, the more it snowballed into something so extreme.

This is WILD to me. Suppressing your emotions, to a degree, is called EMOTIONAL REGULATION. If you just pause for one minute, don't immediately react out of emotion, you can logically assess a situation and solve problems. This is where self control and discipline is built. Learn to control your anger, to push through your sadness, to cope with your own 'triggers,' go to the gym when you're tired, make yourself do something productive instead of giving in to bordom. Don't give your feelings power over you, and eventually you wont be drowning in them. There us honor in self control, in putting others before yourself, and in doing what needs to be done regardless of feelings, Being obsessed with yourself and your feelings blinds you to everything, and is essentially narcissism and hedonism.

The world we live in now is one based purely on everyone's feelings, and it's an absolute hellscape like we've never seen before.

I’m talking about the regular stuff you can make at home or get at a restaurant. Not the instant packets. That one is kinda dependent on the brand. Udon is the superior noodle. Idk how popular this is but most people I know prefer ramen noodle. Although their preferences and opinions are wrong.

Go to community college then transfer to a cheaper but reputable school. One of the primary things putting people in debt are student loans. Thing is, unless you're trying to become a lawyer or a doctor, the school you go to doesn't matter. Hell, your grades don't even matter as long as you pass. Employers just care about your degree, experience, and skills.

For decades, the share of U.S. children living with a single parent has been rising, accompanied by a decline in marriage rates and a rise in births outside of marriage. A new Pew Research Center study of 130 countries and territories shows that the U.S. has the world’s highest rate of children living in single-parent households.

Almost a quarter of U.S. children under the age of 18 live with one parent and no other adults (23%), more than three times the share of children around the world who do so (7%).

https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2019/12/12/u-s-children-more-likely-than-children-in-other-countries-to-live-with-just-one-parent/

Doesn't it seem that women in the USA should be listening to others around the world and following their lead, regarding how to maintain a good household and a stable relationship, rather than the other way around for some reason? Things like gender fluidity, promiscuity, limited age gaps, lack of submissiveness, is leading to sad statistics like this one found in the study.

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EDIT: adding additional statistics for people who think it's better for a child to live in a single parent home:

Children brought up in single mother homes are:
5 times more likely to commit suicide,
9 times more likely to drop out of high school,
10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances,
14 times more likely to commit rape,
20 times more likely to end up in prison,
32 times more likely to run away from home.
https://www.fixfamilycourts.com/single-mother-home-statistics/

They say you can't define woke.. Well I did.. and here it is.

WOKE ; The practice of elevating certain groups to the status of protected and beyond criticism while simultaneously preaching hatred and disgust for another under the guise of promoting equality.

This goes hand in hand with not understanding the difference between wanting equality and demanding superiority.

NOTE: My original post cited specific examples but reddit kept blocking my post due to the "delicate nature of this topic"

I see so many people online, that think they are so intelligent and that they understand all the secrets of the known world, saying that the elites are scared of us having social media. That the real reason as to why TikTok was about to be banned in alot of countries was because we were "exposing" the truth (rather than the fact that it was a spy app from a foreign hostilecountry, rather than a spy app by America, and that America couldn't profit from it). I'll see some stupid theory "exposing" something and someone will comment "that's why they want to ban tiktok, so we won't know". I've been seeing this logic on other platforms other than tiktok recently as well.

You're not exposing anything. You're not as important or intelligent as you think you are. I don't think the "elites" are shaking in their boots because @user12827373 (random username) posted some stupid theory with suspenseful music for a million people to like and then go on with their day.

If there are really elites like you say that want things to be in the dark, it's already in the dark. You have to be extremely naive to think you're actually doing profound by making a post on social media. You're being fed an algorithm by a billion dollar corporation to keep you on the app longer (to profit off of you), there is no system against you besides the one that profits off your ignorance as you stare at a screen scrolling for hours. You're not fighting a system like some hero. Social media isn't uniting us to beat the "bad elites". You're simply scrolling for hours. Nothing more nothing less.

Nothing personal but most HR jobs can easily be replaced with technology and most HR departments are vastly overstaffed.

Every company ive worked for seems to have had a large number of HR staff in proportion to other departments. Being an HR person that schedules interviews and sends out employee reminder emails is a glorified secretary job.

Filling out employee onboarding information can be fully automated by having the employee fill out an online form. Payroll and time clock recording can be fully automated. Most job postings are done online.

employee handbooks and policies can all be published on a company website. employee healthcare benefits applications are usually outsourced to a provider website.

Any employee discipline and firing events are almost always between the direct manager and the employee and HR is just there to "sign off" on it.

I do believe there is a need for some HR employees but in my experience HR is vastly overstaffed for having most of their processes automated or outsourced.